Many people are currently
wrestling with several different kinds of identity crisis. Most of us
possess a number of identities; for example, those that we have
formed on our own, those that our friends and family have created,
and several that civil and governmental institutions have attached to
us. More and more, some of us are being required to carry identity cards to
prove to authorities who we really are, to validate what we are
engaged in, and even if we are legal or allowable in their sight.
Let's back up a little.
To begin with, what is an identity? The basic dictionary
definition is “the fact of being who a person is.” Well, that's a
little vague. The dictionary further describes identity as “the
characteristics determining” who one is—such as possessing a
“Canadian identity.” Some synonyms of identity are: personality,
self, distinctiveness.
With that basis, we can
view identity as something that gets continually molded over our
lifetime. A baby is born with almost no identity—other than being a
helpless ward of mom and dad. It has little personality or
distinctiveness at first. As we grow, we gradually form our identity,
and do so largely by the groups we find ourselves associating with
and are members of: family, church, school, neighborhood, club, and
other social and employment groups. These groups constitute our
social network. They form our personality... our identity.
Over time we come to
internalize the norms and values of the groups we're members of, and
we begin to behave accordingly. Catholics have different values and
behaviors than Muslims do. Motorcycle gang members have different
values and behaviors than quilting club members do. So our adoption
and internalization of the norms and beliefs of the groups we
associate with largely establish our identity. Identity, in other
words, is primarily a social construct. Our groups—which form our
social network—in a sense define us.
Before the time of social
media our identities were created very differently from how we do it
today. We previously formed mostly face-to-face relationships with
other members of the groups we joined. It was a more visible and
tangible process. Now we have Facebook and other social media, which
play a major role in the creation of the identity of many people.
Because we often no longer use those face-to-face relationships to
form our identity, many people even consciously construct their
online identity, which is often something quite different from their
“real” identity. The identities people create in online games can
even become rather fanciful—quite the opposite of who they actually
are. It can get confusing, as to which identity is real, which is
virtual, which is imaginary. For many people this situation is
creating a kind of identity crisis.
More on identities next
time...